Couples Counseling


“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and
find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ Rumi

Being in conflict with the people we love the most can be truly painful. It’s hard to feel seen and understood when there is so much tension in the room. It might be hard to break the cycle of defensiveness and disconnect, and fighting might be escalating right now. In couples counseling you will learn skills on how to listen and connect with each other in a supportive and safe environment, and work together to tease apart the tangles that feel like they’ve turned into permanent knots. Sometimes having these highly emotional conversations can be intimidating and it can feel hard to stay centered when it’s between the two of you. I am here to help you both feel supported and more able to respond to the situation at hand in a thoughtful and bigger-picture view, and to slowly decrease the tendency to simply react to problems in ways that are unhelpful to the relationship.

Issues I work with:

– Communication difficulties and feeling misunderstood

– Anger and aggression (physical and verbal)

– Unresolved and re-occurring arguments

– Differences in expressions of intimacy, and the giving and receiving of pleasure

– Premarital Counseling

“I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.” ~ Virginia Satir

Below you’ll find some recommended books on relationships:

Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch

If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl

If the Buddha Married by Charlotte Kasl

Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson

Email or call for a 15-minute phone consultation at no charge
email:  phone:  650-762-9220
Office located in Union Square, San Francisco